NO news to report :( We're hoping to get new update photos of TJ next week and possibly (pretty please) word of a hearing date. In the meantime, I've been furiously working on getting her room together. My mom did an AWESOME job on the crib skirt and I found a great seamstress to put together her crib quilt and twin size quilt for her big girl bed. It's really looking precious!!! I'm also almost done paiting her room - 13 ft. ceilings - what was I thinking!!!! I don't want to post photos until everything is done but I can tell you my idea of theming the room around vintage, shabby handkerchiefs is coming out better than I'd imagined... :)
Also, I decided to tinker around with the blog. I've been trying to install a counter to see how many people are popping by but apparently blogger didn't like any of the ones I tried to install. Well, I found a great alternative. The map ---------------> over there is a counter AND it tracks the location of my visitors. Nifty huh? I suspect my map will not be as exciting as some the more prolific bloggers out there but it'll still be fun to see where everyone's from. The only bummer is it requires several days of data before it will generate the map :(
As an aside, if anyone out there has any advice on how to handle this I could use some help. Here's the situation: So I pick up Emma from Day Camp today & ask her the usual questions about her day. Usually I hear cute stories about what they did, etc. But today she tells me she got in a fight with "Shelby." It appears "Shelby" told Emma she no longer wanted to be friends because she knows "Your mom doesn't like my mom!" I ask Emma if I've EVER said anything about Shelby's mom & she says "No! I told her you NEVER said anything about her mom. But she says I'm lying and doesn't want to be my friend."
Now for the nitty gritty of this story. Okay, this lady is definitely not your typical suburban soccer mom. Her arms covered from wrist to shoulder in tattoos (I don't mean neat artistic stuff either - they're rather crude and almost "home made" looking), she has eyebrow, nose and lip piercings, wears concert T-Shirts circa 1980-1985 and drives an old Firebird. To make things more interesting, we often hear about this little girl's daddy (the parents are not separated or divorced) who works away from home for months at a time and can only see his daughter for two or three days every several months. Of course, we've never seen this man. In fact, we've ONLY seen her mother with a YOUNG woman (early 20s) and they are always holding hands. I had assumed she had an older daughter but the little girl says she is her mommy's friend.
Now.. I AM NOT a judgemental person. Anyone who grew up with me remembers the crowd I hung with and our rather interesting clothes and hair colors. I have made small talk with this woman on numerous occasions. We've joked with one another about our kids' funny behaviour, waved as we left the parking lot, etc. I have NEVER given this woman any reason to be upset with me in any way. So unless I'm completely socially inept, I'm pretty sure this isn't coming from the mom... it's coming from the kid. I'm thinking this kid is insecure about her mom and is telling other kids these things to see if anyone will fess up & admit the girl's mom's a bit freaky.
So, what do I do??? Tell Emma to tell the little girl AGAIN that I do not dislike her mommy? Do I tell the little girl I do not dislike her mommy? Do I tell the teacher? Do I tell the mom, "Sweetie, I'm sure you're a great mom and a genuinely nice person but you *really* do look like you could be running a meth lab or maybe a chop shop down the county road. Your daughter is clearly insecure about your appearance and it is affecting her friendships." Do I ignore it and hope it will go away? I have to do something because Emma had a situation at another day camp earlier this Summer with a kid making stuff up & being catty (a genuine bully/brat) - and we ended up moving her to a new camp because of this kid. Emma takes these things very personally and does not understand why someone would lie just to hurt someone's feelings.
Arrgh!!!
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I think I'd privately talk to this mom with the kids not around, let her know what the kid said about you not liking the momma, and put it out there with, "I don't have any issues with you, but something must be bugging your kiddo. Maybe you two should talk about it."
Ahh, poor things. Sounds like Shelby may be trying to mock her mothers relationships/arguings with girls? thinking this is the way to do things with your friends. Kinda like when teenagers go togther and then break up over and over, living out some sort of what they think is "grown up' relationships. Hard to say what to do but chances are her mother has no idea what she is saying and has no hard feelings about you. I would wait to see if it does go away first and then mabye address the mother soon if it doesn't change pretty quickly.
I agree with Sarah. I would just say something to mom to the effect that I was concerned that Emma told me this and wanted to make sure there were no concerns on the moms part.
As for the girls, I think they will just have to work it out. If you try to talk to Tattoo mom and say I think you daughter has problems with your lifestyle then you really will have a problem with mom. Can't tell people how to run their business or raise their kids. Tami
I agree with Sarah. I would just say something to the effect that I was concerned that Emma told me this and wanted to make sure there were no concerns on the moms part.
As for the girls, I think they will just have to work it out. If you try to talk to Tattoo mom and say I think you daughter has problems with your lifestyle then you really will have a problem with mom. Can't tell people how to run their business or raise their kids. Tami
I think we need a picture of tattoo momma/meth queen to judge. I probably wouldn't say anything to tattoo mom, unless it was to mention off hand that you had heard the Williamson County Sheriffs Office was planning a combo meth lab/sodomy sting and thought she might have heard the same thing. Also, ask her if she knows how often pharmacies actually report decongestant sales to the Feds.
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